- Concern about academic demands – finals & projects
- Talk about expectations for holiday break – s/he isn’t in high school anymore
- Anticipation of good food, lots of sleep and seeing old and new friends
- Re-evaluate finances
Tips for Successful Parenting
Expect change – plenty of it. The son you dropped off in August will not be the one who comes home for the winter holiday. Change is not only inevitable, it’s expected and necessary for healthy relationships. Your student will experience new relationships, academic challenges and cultural events designed to broaden his worldview and contribute to his understanding of how he can be engaged in the world. Change is not only good; it is supposed to happen.
No matter where a student goes to college she will feel and think differently about herself at the end of her first semester; more independent, aware and able to decide for herself. Encourage conversations that promote open dialogue about what your expectations are when they are home for Winter Break, and be open to hear her expectations too. Holding on to, or reverting to “House Rules” that existed in high school rarely – ok, almost never – work well.
As you and your student process how the first semester panned out, ask questions about things such as finances, life choices, communication patterns and/or other issues you each became aware of – how might you address them differently in the future? What might each of you do differently? What went well?.