In clear simplicity, Dr. Rachel Remen talks about her own realization that, “there is no ending without a beginning. That beginnings and endings are always right up against each other. Nothing ever ends without something else beginning or begins without something else ending. Perhaps this would be easier to remember if we had a word for it. Something like “endbegin,” or “beginend.”
So, here we are looking eye-to-eye with the “endbegin” or “beginend” of our daughter or son beginning the college journey. I know from my own experience as a parent of a new student that this time led to feelings I wasn’t sure what to do with. I’m confident I said some things, or didn’t say others because I didn’t exactly know what to do with what seemed the awkward end, or was it the beginning?
For many of us, this is uncharted territory — be it our first child going away, or maybe out last. What would you call this time? Are you fighting an ending? I’d encourage you to ask your daughter/son how they see or feel about the endbegin – to see it through her/his eyes could be a beginend!