As you look to the rapidly approaching day of departure for the beginning of the Fall semester, there are – if you are paying attention to them – a host of feelings rising to the surface about all that this new beginning represents.
We each embark on any number of journeys in our lives, this one – the departure of your daughter or son to college – holds as much hope and excitement as it probably holds fear and concern. I’d like to encourage you to take the words of Poet & Philosopher Mark Nepo to heart for both you and your daughter/son, because I believe the journey is for both of you.
To journey without being changed
is to be a nomad.
To change without journeying
is to be a chameleon.
To journey and to be transformed
by the journey
is to be a pilgrim.
You might ask yourself the following questions over the next few months as they relate to your daughter or son’s departure. Relax, breath deeply and ask yourself:
- In what ways am I holding on?
- In what ways am I releasing?
- In what ways might I help promote self-competency for my daughter/son?
- What might I be doing/saying that is more about how I feel than what my daughter/son may need?