Move-in Weekend

The New Year has Begun!

This past weekend, all across the country, emotions were piqued!  The culmination of so much planning, so much running around, so much hope and expectation came to fruition as new students moved in to residence halls.  Parents, students and volunteers carried box after box to this little space that will now serve as “home away from home.”  Even students who don’t live on campus sense the energy around getting emotionally and psychologically ready to begin the college experience. The excitement is palpable, as is the anxiety.

As you assess your own emotional state, be aware that students have their own uncertainties.  As you talk with your student about her new experience, be mindful that what you are feeling is not the same.  Be aware of ways in which you may be conveying your fear or loneliness in ways that may not be helpful to your student.

The college experience is one full of questions – and not just questions from professors. Many of these questions are connected to student’s exploration of self-identity. Over the next couple of weeks students are, in one form or fashion, asking questions such as:

  • Is this the right place for me?
  • Can I make a difference here?
  • Will people like me?
  • Who can I trust?
  • Who am I becoming?

I would encourage you to err on the side of curiosity rather than inquisition: asking open questions that promote dialogue, helping your student explore new layers of his self-identity.  It is time and energy well spent!


Author: Dane

Dane Anthony’s career in higher education spans 30 years on both public and private university campuses. In addition to serving as a faculty member, he has worked in the areas of Counseling, Residence Life & Housing, Student Health & Wellness, New Student & Parent Orientation, Parent Programming, and University Chaplaincy. Dane & his wife have 3 grown children and currently reside in Nashville, TN.

2 thoughts on “Move-in Weekend”

  1. It is interesting that you should place these questions in this commentary. My daughter called me from Belmont last week and told me that her new friend (who has a terrible kidney infection) called her when she and her new friends were at a free concert that she was so excited to attend. Her sick friend said that she needed help, she was so sick and needed to go to the hospital. Erin and her other new friends left the concert and took her friend to the hospital, sat with her until she felt better then took her home. The next day she and her sick friend’s room mate walked to CVS to get her medicine because the pharmacy at Belmont could not provide it. She said that she didn’t want her new friend to walk alone. That’s the kind of person she is becoming. Belmont is the right place for her and I pray that she not only has but will continue to make a difference.

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