When I begin thinking about writing a blog to talk about the issues, concerns and hopes involved in the transitions we as parents of new college students encounter, I didn’t anticipate it being an on-going posting of poetry. I sense it won’t always be such, but the attentive voice of poets who have their pulse on both the heart and soul have much to say to those of us seeking to navigate the sometimes murky relational water with our daughters and sons.
So this round, I turn to one of the most grounded persons currently writing – Wendell Berry. Author, essayist, poet, visionary, and dare I say prophet of what is right in the world and what is wrong. His keen eye for the simple and profound, often serves to guide my Continue reading “Peace for the Journey…”
Walking across campus this morning, I saw signs for the Campus Activities Fair. At this annual fall-semester event, held on campuses across the country, students stroll between table after table to visit with or find information on local businesses, campus organizations and clubs, local faith communities, community service groups and more. It struck me as I watched hundreds of wide-eyed students full of hope and excitement, fear and curiosity, that this new world into which each has stepped is Continue reading “Opportunity is Knocking…”
As we sit in the new reality that our daughter/son is now off to college, and we are on this end hoping we do “OK” with it all that has and will come, my encouragement is that you both “do it well!”
As parents, we’ve all had some experience we might refer to as “out of the mouth of babes.” And so, I refer you to a YouTube video that, to me, expresses my hope for all of us – that we believe in ourselves and in our kids, to give this new relationship transition all we’ve got…keep practicing!
As you look to the rapidly approaching day of departure for the beginning of the Fall semester, there are – if you are paying attention to them – a host of feelings rising to the surface about all that this new beginning represents.
We each embark on any number of journeys in our lives, this one – the departure of your daughter or son to college – holds as much hope and excitement as it probably holds fear and concern. I’d like to encourage you to take the words of Poet & Philosopher Mark Nepo to heart for both you and your daughter/son, because I believe Continue reading “Peace for the Journey…”
I’m an avid reader of poetry, grateful for the keen and eloquent insight of those among us gifted with “eyes to see” what isn’t quite so obvious to many of us. My daughter left the other day to begin graduate school. As I reflected on this path she has chosen, the poem “The Road Not Taken” by Robert Frost (below) came to mind. The last few lines are fairly well known, but standing alone they feel out of context.
As humans, we each have a story about the roads we have chosen to take. However, it is different when we watch our children make their choices – we want so much for them to avoid the loose rocks, the hidden snares. Yet, as I look back on my own journey, I recognize that Continue reading “Peace for the Journey…”
College students are a prime market for lenders who often prey on student’s lack of experience and understanding of how debt works. While some colleges & universities actively restrict credit card marketing, others form lucrative partnerships with credit issuers that may encourage students to apply for cards they don’t need, or worse, can’t afford.
This topic provides a great opportunity to talk with your student about your own experience with Continue reading “College students & Credit Cards”
As a parent, it is important to understand as much of the academic culture as possible. Knowing the expectations of the culture will help you help your student be more successful by building her self-competency, allowing he to take “ownership” of the experience.
One of the factors that governs how colleges & universities communicate, particularly as it relates to academic record information, is called FERPA (defined below), otherwise known as Continue reading “FERPA – Family Education Rights & Privacy Act”
I was in line at the grocery store recently, watching a mother of two small children trying to manage the competing tasks of finding her wallet and keeping the kids from pulling every sugar-filled item within arm’s reach into the cart.
It struck me that as we practice our awareness of transitioning the relationships with our children, we are in the process of launching them into the world from the very early days of their lives. We progressively “let go” of them – however reluctantly – from early on: literally and figuratively releasing as they Continue reading “Peace for the Journey…”
It is crucial to a student’s success as she embarks on the college journey, that she does so with the support of her family and community. I refer to the transmission of this support as “Conveying the Blessing.”
Each student has “landmarks” in his journey that helped guide him to this pivotal point. Each landmark often represents a person – family, friend, neighbor, or mentor — who took a sincere interest in helping guide his journey, and as such, each person has a vested interest in his success.
I believe it is essential to Continue reading “Conveying “The Blessing””
Welcome to College Parent 101! This site is dedicated to assisting parents of college students transition your relationship with your daughter/son.
I am convinced that after 30 years of working in higher education and parenting three children through the college years that, as parents, we are not really designed to “let go” of our children. What we are designed to do though is Continue reading “Welcome to College Parent 101!”